Life is a contrary game

Just like golf is a contrary game:

• If you want to hit a ball high with iron, you have to hit it down, not up.

• If you are anxious to see the result of your swing by lifting your head earlier, you might end up messing it up. The key is to delay lifting your head and don't be anxious to know the result. Focus on the ball by looking at until you no longer can keep your eye on it.
• If you want to play it well and play it hard, you might end up playing it bad. If you don't care on the result, instead focus on details, you might play well.

How about life, quite similar:

• If you are stingy and want to save $$, you might end up loosing $$
• If you are anxious to be successful, you might end up with nothing. Rather, if you stick with you interest and enjoy doing what you are doing, you are already successful.
• If you want to be perfect, don't try to fix your weakness. Rather continue to work on your strength.
  
• If you want someone to be perfect, don't change him/her. Treat him/her as if he/she is perfect.
  
• If you want to be happy, then you have to bear the toughness.
• Your heart might not be lonely when you are alone. While you are surrounded by people, your heart might be lonely.
• When things are bad, thinking good things will be coming. When things are good, think bad.
• If you want to get someone, let him/her leave. If you grasp someone, she/he might leave.